Listening Quiz for Couples

This little quiz is a self-evaluation of the current level of your listening skills, as well as
how you perceive your partner’s listening skills.

Even if you don’t have a significant other at this time, this checklist will be helpful in the future. So the next time you enter into a relationship, you’ll be more aware of behaviors that could support or thwart a loving partnership.

Think about how often you do the following behaviors, and write in the number that reflects its frequency of occurrence.

On a scale from 1-3, rate yourself accordingly: 1 = never, 2 = sometimes, 3 = often. Then total your scores and compare. 33 points per partner is a perfect score.

	ME	MY PARTNER
1. We avoid making assumptions about each other’s thoughts and feelings.
2. We avoid planning what we’re going to say next when the other is talking.
3. We think positively about ourselves.
4. In a heated discussion, we try to focus on points of agreement versus disagreement.
5. We are comfortable with silence during a conversation.
6. We avoid dredging up past issues during current disagreements.
7. We demonstrate that we have heard each other’s point of view before sharing our own.
8. We try not to respond to a complaint with a complaint.
9. We take honest feedback and criticism well.
10. We compliment each other for positive or admirable behaviors demonstrated.
11. We avoid interrupting each other when one or the other is speaking.

Listening Quiz for Couples

by Rebecca Shafir