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This little quiz is a self-evaluation of the current level of your listening skills, as well as
how you perceive your partner’s listening skills. Even if you don’t have a
significant other at this time, this checklist will be helpful in the future. So the next time you enter into a relationship, you’ll be more aware of behaviors that could support or thwart a loving partnership. Think about how often you do the following behaviors, and write in the number that reflects its frequency of occurrence. On a scale from 1-3, rate yourself accordingly: 1 = never, 2 = sometimes, 3 = often. Then total your scores and compare. 36 points per partner is a perfect score.
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1. We avoid making assumptions about each
other’s thoughts and feelings.
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2. We avoid planning what we’re going to say
next when the other is talking.
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| 3. We think positively about ourselves. |
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4. In a heated discussion, we try to focus on
points of agreement versus disagreement.
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5. We are comfortable with silence during
a conversation.
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6.We avoid dredging up past issues during current
disagreements.
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7. We demonstrate that we have heard each other’s
point of view before sharing our own.
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8. We try not to respond to a complaint with a
complaint.
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| 9. We take honest feedback and criticism well. |
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10. We compliment each other for positive
or admirable behaviors demonstrated.
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11.We avoid interrupting each other when one
or the other is speaking.
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